By Kendra Johnson
Here I am, at that stage of life. You know, when your kids are grown and they have children of their own. Whether they are local or live in another state, there is sometimes a strange feeling when we are together.
When changing a diaper, reassembling a dropped Lego Ninja character, or playing Monopoly with a determined-to-win grandson, I sometimes find myself just sitting back and watching. Sometimes I feel like I’m on the outside looking in, seeing them through the eyes of a mom who has “been there, done that.”
I enjoy watching them grow, reliving in memory when my own boys were little and I experienced those same moments of joy and — to be honest– frustration that all parents of young children have felt. Spending time with my grandsons is such a blessing, and I love it! Proverbs 17:6 says it all: “Children’s children are a crown to the aged, and parents are the pride of their children.” I love my boys, and their boys!
End of story? Do I now just “relax” and “watch”? Not at all. In 1 Chronicles some people of each of the tribes were given responsibilities related to the Temple and how it functioned. It seems they were given their specific tasks according to their abilities and experience. When we look at 1 Chronicles 9:31 we read, “Mattithiah was entrusted with baking the offering bread”; in chapter 9, verse 26 the four principal gatekeepers “were entrusted with the responsibility for the rooms and treasuries in the house of God”, and chapter 15, verse 22 says, “Kenaniah the head Levite was in charge of the singing; that was his responsibility because he was skillful at it.”
What is my responsibility now, as a grandma to 5 boys who will be changing into teenagers, then into men, before my eyes? I certainly did not do everything right when my boys were small, but that time as a mom has given me on-the-job experience. Even now, I sometimes find myself looking back, wondering what I could have done differently.
But, is our time up? Is our opportunity to encourage and guide gone? Can we share what we have learned without being a “you should be doing it this way” kind of person? Absolutely not… our time is not up! Whether you answer to Grandma, Mor Mor, Mapa, or GiGi, let’s commit to pray – then watch for how God can use us!
- Pray for wisdom, then watch for opportunities to bring God’s Word into simple conversations with little ones, and remind them that God is with them and loves them. Be supportive of your adult children by reminding those little ones that God has given parents to them for a reason, and they need to obey them.
- Be creative when you ask older grandchildren questions. Ask them what God is doing in their lives and what you can pray about for them. Continually spur them on to good works, as you challenge and encourage them to be loving to their friends at school, and to be bold when they see situations where someone needs a protector.
I am blessed to see my boys stepping up into their role as dad, and how they go above and beyond with the lives that God has entrusted to them.
They are a crown to my aging head that I gladly wear.